This is where the hornets nest gets stirred! Remember that I’m just the messenger, or as my teacher might say, “I’m just delivering the mail.” I’m not responsible for its content. I don’t know if you’ve heard of the sandwich method, but the bread is like compliments or the positive reinforcement, and the meat is the constructive criticism, or hard teaching. Paul does this under the instruction of the Holy Spirit, and I think we miss it because whoever divides the Bible into topics, leaves this verse in the former section in some translations. As followers of Christ, we are to accept the will of one another and count others more significant than ourselves (vs 21.) God says this before He tells the wife to accept the will of her husband.
What’s more telling is that He compares the husband to Jesus, because He’s the head of the church. Most women would tell you that if their husbands would love like Jesus, then they would have no trouble submitting to him, and husbands would have no trouble being like Jesus if their wives would adore them the way we adore Jesus. Just as we are a part of the body of Christ, we become one, with Him being the head, when we joined together as husband and wife, we became one, and should treat each other as our own flesh. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church (vs 29.) Ephesians 5:21-33
This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:32-33