Now I know this is a tough pill for most of us to swallow, but these are not my rules, I’m just the messenger. God’s word is very clear on this issue, and always has been from the beginning of time; the man is the head of the household, but is required to love his wife the way Jesus loves the church, not the building, but all of us who make up the church. This means that the wife should not be ruled over harshly, making it hard to love the husband. My favorite commentator says it like this:
“The love which God requires from the husband on behalf of his wife will make amends for the subjection which he demands from her to her husband; and the prescribed subjection of the wife will be an abundant return for that love of the husband which God has made her due.” Matthew Henry
The lack of love in the relationship is probably where this whole thing goes wrong. However, if love is done right, then this should never be a problem. If you hear of a woman being upset that God included this in the Bible, they are probably not getting the love that He demands.
Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, Ephesians 5:24-25